The Single-Mindedness of Anti-Abortionists

Many people claim to be Pro-Life or Anti-Abortionists. I'm Catholic so I'm supposed to be Pro-Life too. The real deal is that I'm simply Anti-Abortion. Coz I believe people should take responsibility for their actions.

But this post is not about my views on abortion; it's about the views of others on abortions, and how they think Catholics should behave when they encounter an unwanted pregnancy.

I'm writing this because of what is posted on

http://sg.theasianparent.com/articles/i_killed_my_child/.

So, this woman who hasn't claimed in her article to be a Catholic herself (she only writes about her husband being a Catholic) is being slammed for aborting her 6th child.

Sixth. I wonder how many people who commented on the article have six children. Or five, which is what Martha has to deal with. Or ANY CHILDREN, for that matter.

It really confuses me. If you don't wake up to screaming children, have to be publicly embarassed because your two-year-old is screaming his head off in a crowded restaurant, struggle to make ends meet every month just to put food on the table for your brood and worry non-stop about each and every one of your children's academics and health, then I don't really know if you have the right in the first place to criticise Martha.

Yes yes, I know, there are tons of people out there who managed to survive on 1 person's salary to bring up great big families consisting of 11 children. Abortion was never considered by these. One sterling example is the mother of the doctor who gave a talk at the Marriage Preparation Course I attended.

And you know what? I cannot fathom this woman pointing her finger at Martha and saying, "Hey you, how could you even THINK about abortion? I had twice as many kids as you when my eleventh came along and I still had enough love to bring him up." Really. This woman had the strength, courage, energy and LOVE to bring up all her children. Somehow, getting up and pointing her finger at a "lesser" woman does not seem to be in her character.

(OK, she's dead but that's not the point...)

And what's so horrible about calling your children "monsters"? Does that mean you love them any less? So maybe some prim and proper people out there only use saccharine words as terms of endearment. Well. That's up to them. As Martha's calling her children "monsters" is completely up to her.

Dear Spicegal, I'm quite sure that "additional 1 kid is not a big duel" because Martha probably does not want to fight with her kid. And if you think that "it is not a financial or health matter", I'm glad to know that you have kindly volunteered to foot Martha's medical bills and provide for her child's education.

Oh you didn't? Well then...

And from the "Catholic" standpoint, to all those people who criticise Martha for being a Catholic and aborting her child and ADVISING HER TO GO FOR LIGATION (or asking why she didn't go for one in the first place), I hope you aren't Catholics too. Because Catholics do NOT practise birth control, which INCLUDES ligation.

From a very Catholic point of view, I shall now quote Jesus: "He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her."

Am I being a hypocrite here because I have "thrown stones" at those criticising Martha? I believe not, because I am merely standing up for Martha, all those women out there who have been criticised for having abortions (I have NEVER been pregnant NOR had an abortion, just in case anyone was going to wag his/her finger at me) and everyone who has been a victim of people who failed (whether by choice or by sheer inability) to take the time to understand the situation of another.

I'm sure all of you have met at least one of these people in your life. All the best for those you will encounter in the future.